BRAD INDUSTRIES · CREW FILE · PREVENTION
The Undercover Agent
Division of Fitting In
“Copy the room. Never be the odd one.”
Also goes by the masker, the image manager, the stoic.
I’ve studied every room you’ve ever walked into. What they laugh at. How long they look at you. I built a version of you that fits. It’s exhausting. It’s also very convincing.
be u
In red crayon: the inner child. Three words or fewer. Usually right.
His file
1What he says, and what’s underneath it
- What he says
- “I’m good, how are you?”
- What he means
- If they see the real you, they might not like it.
- The feeling under that
- Tired from performing. Lonely in a full room.
- The need under that
- To be liked as I actually am.
Brad only ever says the top line. Everything under it is what he’s guarding.
2How to spot him
- Mirrors other people’s voices and opinions.
- Needs a long recovery after social events.
- Rehearses small talk in the shower.
- Feels like a different person in every room.
3Who he’s protecting
- He’s protecting
- The part of you that felt like the odd one out.
- On duty against
- Being called too much.
- Where he got the job
- Brads like yours usually get hired when being yourself got you laughed at or left out.
4His real talent
- What he’s good at
- He reads people beautifully and understands every side.
- Off duty, he’s
- An actor who gets to choose his roles.
- His blind spot
- He’s so good at fitting in that you start to feel like nobody really knows you.
5What helps him stand down
- What he needs from you
- Give him a few places where he’s off the clock.
- Say this to him
- “We can take the costume off here.”
- Skip this
- “Just be yourself.”
- Ask him this
- “Where do you get to stop performing?”
- Ask your people for
- Room to be weird, quiet or loud, with no comment.
Try this tonight
Spend ten minutes doing something exactly your way: your music, at your volume.
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Your Brad, meet theirs
One file covers one Brad. Most of the trouble happens between two. Take the quiz with a partner, friend, family member or coworker, and Brad writes the joint report: the loop your two Brads get stuck in, and the words that work.