BRAD INDUSTRIES · CREW FILE · EMERGENCY RESPONSE
Building Security
Division of Raised Voices
“Nobody gets near the inner child.”
Also goes by the explosive part, the blamer.
I don’t start fights. I end them. Loudly. Someone came at you, or it felt like they did, so I stepped in. I’ll apologize later. I’m told I should do that more.
im safe
In red crayon: the inner child. Three words or fewer. Usually right.
His file
1What he says, and what’s underneath it
- What he says
- “Back up.”
- What he means
- I won’t let you get hurt like that again.
- The feeling under that
- Hurt, wearing armor.
- The need under that
- To be protected, so I don’t have to do it alone.
Brad only ever says the top line. Everything under it is what he’s guarding.
2How to spot him
- Goes from zero to loud fast.
- Blames first and figures it out later.
- Feels terrible afterward.
- Defends other people fiercely too.
3Who he’s protecting
- He’s protecting
- The part of you that got hurt while nobody stepped in.
- On duty against
- Getting hurt with no way to stop it.
- Where he got the job
- Brads like yours usually get hired when nobody stepped in to protect you.
4His real talent
- What he’s good at
- Courage. He protects what matters.
- Off duty, he’s
- A guardian. Steady, strong and calm.
- His blind spot
- He scares off the people who were trying to help.
5What helps him stand down
- What he needs from you
- Thank him first. Then ask him to step back so you can talk.
- Say this to him
- “Thank you. We’re safe enough to talk.”
- Skip this
- “Calm down.”
- Ask him this
- “What are you protecting right now?”
- Ask your people for
- A calm voice and a little space when things heat up.
Try this tonight
When the heat rises, step away for ninety seconds and breathe out longer than you breathe in. Then come back.
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Your Brad, meet theirs
One file covers one Brad. Most of the trouble happens between two. Take the quiz with a partner, friend, family member or coworker, and Brad writes the joint report: the loop your two Brads get stuck in, and the words that work.